Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Sound of melodies

Hey there,
Its been a while, and I've been up to http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Warfield2.htmlsome great reflection and some walking in my truth :-)
I played a recital on Monday, and it was such a great experience! I felt like I was really getting some of my music out! Even the rehearsal process was super interesting and revelatory.
I also discovered that my temperament is a Melancholic according to Aristotle's four temperaments.  This has made my life significantly more interesting and I understand a great deal more about myself and about my relationship with others and with God.
Portrait of a Melancholic temperament.

  •  Melancholy
    1. Conscientious, SJ - Guardian - The melancholy is an introverted temperament type. His natural style is analytical and perfectionist. He is the most moody of types ranging from highly "up" to gloomy and depressed. During his low periods he can be very antagonistic and does not make friends easily. He is the most dependable of the temperaments due to his perfectionist tendencies. His analytical ability allows him to accurately diagnose obstacles and problems, which often keep him from making changes - he prefers the status quo and may seem overly pessimistic.
    He may choose a difficult life vocation involving personal sacrifice. Many melancholies become doctors or scientists or artists. Their interpersonal style can be critical and negative. He tends to be more indecisive than other types. They have difficulty giving praise and approval because they cannot bring themselves to say something that is not 100% true. They also are usually dissatisfied with themselves being highly self-critical.
    Other weaknesses include being "thin skinned" or touchy and easily offended. He often feels persecuted and may seek revenge for real or imagined insults. He tends to be "all or nothing" in his evaluation of things; everything must be black or white and no shades of gray. He is least likely to consider mitigating circumstances when evaluating a person or situation. No temperament is more likely to be legalistic and rigid. He can be intolerant and impatient with those who do not see things his way.

This is amazing to me because it describes me to a tee.  Anyway I've decided some things about my true gifts and strengths and I plan on putting myself behind those things, I know that I should be playing my instrument more to assuage the title wave that beats upon the shores of my heart from time to time.   Thank God for understanding, clarity, and the enjoyment of life! 

AGFREED!

Saturday, January 29, 2011

new cut

Been doing more self discovery, and have decided to go with a new cut too! Here it is!

29th bday is right around the corner! Loving me, living me.

AGFREED

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

For Peace

The Serenity Prayer goes like this --
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next. Amen.



Sometimes I get so caught up on having things my way; forgetting that we are not always supposed to be in control. God reminds us of that with this person and that, this situation, or circumstance, that is not as faviorable as we'd like.  We wrestle with our loss of control, I wrestle.... But where does all that wishing and hoping and worrying get me... absolutely nowhere. Well, thats not actually true. It gets me to place of constant unsubsiding--straight up anxiety, to the point where peace is no where to be found in me.  

God lets us go through these emotions-- waiting for us to pray and request His ultimate intervention.  What then is next? But complete and total surrender. We can not always change the way some one feels about us, or how a situation is turning out. Acceptance,  at times, is wisdom.


Agfreed

Monday, January 17, 2011

Hair Clinic update

Still on my hair rehab. tip.   I tried a new product, well two new products that I"ve been eyeing.
1) Giovanni - xtreme protein infusion  - its on the same wave length as Aphogee keratin 2 minute 
Review- Felt really soft but strong, without the mineral oil and chemicals that aphogee has in it
I think I might prefer it, but it'll take some time to really see if it helps with the breakage




2) Shea moisture african blk soap scalp elixir- good for anti dandruff or itchy scalp.
I sprayed and massaged it in after washing, so we'll see but my scalp feels wonderful after the acv rinse i did and all the massaging.  More on this one later





3) one more- I used Oyins- whipped shea butter to retain moisture this time for my twist out.... I have to say, my hair feels really soft and awesome. I'm attributing this to the shea butter I usually use olive oil which is good too, i actually did one twist with evoo and it does feel a tad bit softer (oops)  again we'll see. 

What are your favorite sealers and oils, how do you care for you scalp, esp during winter? 

toodles,
agfreed!

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Confronting

OOOO, I hate that word, it just brings bad feelings up just thinking about it. And yet,  I must confront the issue of confronting anyway.
Everyday we have a choice to confront or repress.  In reading "THe Confident Woman" by Joyce Meyer, I have been "confronted" by the need to confront.  She mentions that a woman of courage must feel the fear and do it anyway. I'm sure you've heard that tune before, but it is so true.
 Often times I shrink away from moments of confrontation, this is a double disservice to myself and the other person(s) involved.  For me progress happens when someone confronts me with a gripe or issue--True growth occurs! I mean if I offend someone or my attitude is wrong, I need someone to tell me in love.
On the other hand, if you are the person with a secret problem with someone, but you don't want to confront, that thing will eat you up. You'll be thinking minute to minute about what you should say, everytime you think of that person.  Why not just speak up? Call it out! Say the truth! even if it causes shame or a little pain or anger.  Let God speak through your conversation and your confrontation! 

AGFreed
(perfected in Him alone)

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

hair update 1.11.11

Hair experiment! 

My hair was feeling reaally parched after the cold dry winter and an aphogee 2 minute reconstructor I did the other day.  So today, it was deep condition time!!!! YAY!!!!!
A natural curlygirls heaven! 
on the right :  Giovanni Smooth as silk conditioner
on the left: Oyin Handmade Honey Hemp conditioner.....
all natural, but Giovanni has some light protein 
RESULTS 

Hair is still wet but the right side was more bouncy and springy, yet smooth and soft!!! 
Left side (oyin) felt yummy soft! looser curls and more elongation.. maybe more moisturizing

The jury is still out on which I like better, we'll see if the breakage stops after all the protein i've been doing. Pray saints :-) 

love ,
agfreed

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

I'm a hairlista!

So to nourish my newest passion, Hair Care.  I've joined a great site thats a really supportive community too, its  hairlista.com I love it because all the ladies are super supportive and you feel free to share and receive all the help you need on this hair journey.  
some goals I have surrounding this

1) Grow my hair to  full BSL or below
2) Develop personal regimen
3) Use more protein for my 3c/4a colored hair
4) Care for my scalp better - i hate oils on my scalp... thats another story 
5) Consult with anyone who may need some hair care guidance no matter how small or large. inbox me :-)  

Shea moisture Deep treatment masque - My rating?  2 stars out of 5
I dont' really care for it. Its a very light texture, with little to no slip. I'd rather use Giovanni Smooth as Silk. and I just bought some Oyin Handmade= Honey Hemp Conditioner which is awesome!!!! More on that later.

Love you all Happy NEW Year, HAppy HAIR YEAR!
AGFREED