Everyday we have a choice to confront or repress. In reading "THe Confident Woman" by Joyce Meyer, I have been "confronted" by the need to confront. She mentions that a woman of courage must feel the fear and do it anyway. I'm sure you've heard that tune before, but it is so true.
Often times I shrink away from moments of confrontation, this is a double disservice to myself and the other person(s) involved. For me progress happens when someone confronts me with a gripe or issue--True growth occurs! I mean if I offend someone or my attitude is wrong, I need someone to tell me in love.
On the other hand, if you are the person with a secret problem with someone, but you don't want to confront, that thing will eat you up. You'll be thinking minute to minute about what you should say, everytime you think of that person. Why not just speak up? Call it out! Say the truth! even if it causes shame or a little pain or anger. Let God speak through your conversation and your confrontation!
(perfected in Him alone)